A woman who asked how she could get her boyfriend to remove his wedding ring has been sent words of caution in a now-viral post on the popular discussion site Mumsnet.

The poster explained that they had been going out for a few months and things were going well, but a few things were bothering her about the new relationship—namely his relationship with his ex-wife.

A 2019 study by Worthy asked more than 1,700 women going through a divorce about their relationships afterward. 22 percent of respondents said they were considering dating again while separated but before filing for divorce, while 28 percent said they started considering dating during the divorce process.

By the time the divorce papers were signed, 78 percent of respondents said they were thinking about dating again.

The Mumsnet user wrote: "His ex-wife—separated a year—and he message all through the day and while she has a boyfriend, she relies on her ex-husband for emotional and practical support. Obviously still close as friends and as parents, which is natural, although my ex and I are only really in contact with kid-related things, nothing more."

Seeing each other a couple of weekday evenings at the end of the week, the Mumsnet user shared the things that were bothering her the most: "He still wears his wedding ring, and has no intention to divorce. [He] doesn't see the point and is committed to supporting his family going forward for his kids' sake, and wants to keep a good relationship with his ex."

Sharing her feelings, the woman explained: "Feeling a bit like the other woman. Like an affair she knows about and tolerates, although I sense she finds my presence in his life difficult."

"He says all the right things," she explained: "But [it] feels like she's still the key woman in his life, and I'm the one for fun and sex. I think he's clueless how this makes me feel, and doesn't want to screw this up. He's told her things are over, he ended the marriage, but there's so few boundaries in place."

The girlfriend, asking for advice online, said: "Can I ask my bf to stop wearing his wedding ring?"

In over 100 comments, Mumsnet users were quick to warn the woman off her new relationship, slamming the man for still wearing his wedding ring despite being in a new relationship.

"The ring is the least of your worries here I think," said one commenter: "I wouldn't date anyone who has no intention of divorcing."

Another reply said: "You are essentially an acknowledged mistress. He's married with no intention of divorcing his wife. She knows about you and has given implied consent. That makes you a mistress."

"The wedding ring should have come off before he started dating. And you shouldn't date men who wear one," said another commenter.

In a later update, the Mumsnet user thanked others for the replies and responses to her query. She wrote: "It's only early days, but I do need to make sure he has room for me in his life as a proper partner."

The poster then added: "I want fun, and excitement, but I'm also not willing to play second fiddle."

Newsweek was not able to verify the details of the case.

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